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Masturbation is still getting a bad rep from Christians. It’s rather annoying how something that is naturally instinct to us creatures can be perverted by those Bible-belted. The Save the World Christian Blog states the following:
Masturbation is the act of arousing yourself sexually until you achieve sexual orgasm, and in men, it culminates in spilling the semen. Masturbation can either be by self, or involved another person of same sex most often.
But the big question remains: Is masturbation an immoral act? What does the Bible say about it? The answer I gave the woman above was that the Bible does not clearly mention or condemn ‘masturbation’ is mentioned and condemned, but this does not justify it. I told her that that fact that she is separated from her husband is not any excuse for her to indulge in masturbation. What the Bible preaches is self control, therefore it is either she is reconciled to her husband or she exercises self control over her sexual urges. (source)
Now I can understand that Christians are stuck in their time and being an anachronism in our time, they tend to vomit their beliefs on a simple act of sexual gratification. We are one of the few, if not the only, creatures on Mother Earth who have the power to have sex whenever we please. There isn’t a fixed time limit for us.
Michel De Montaigne wrote:
To get back to the subject: we have been allotted inconstancy, hesitation, doubt, pain, superstition, worries about what will happen (even after we are dead), ambition, greed, jealousy, envy, unruly, insane and untameable appetities, war, lies, disloyalty, backbiting and curiosity. We take pride in our fair, discursive reason and our capacity to judge and to know, but we have bought them at a price which is strangely excessive if it includes those passions without number which prey upon us. [B] Unless, that is, we choose, like Socrates, to pride ourselves on the one noteworthy prerogative we do have over the beasts: Nature lays down limits and seasons to their lusts, but gives us full rein - anytime, any place. (source)
I know, not a direct quote, but a quote from the Socrates, a person we look up to as great intelligence. But if Nature gave us this wonderful ability to take hold of our sexual practices, while hindering those of wild animals, why is it that religion wants to bastardize it and make it pagan?
We are considered by all people, be it Christians, Atheists, Buddhists, etc. to be beings of reason. With the exception of the Atheists, I find it hard to understand how anyone can call us reasonable when so many of us still believe in a mythological being and his son, or that there is some mystical energy that controls the world and our actions. What’s so reasonable about that? And I’m not here to attack religion and solely religion, but when someone says that something as natural as masturbation is sick and perverse because their book told them so, I have to lift a questioning brow.
“More so, masturbation is an act of uncleanness, which will defile our bodies the temple of God,” writes the same blogger who has damned the act. This is why, if I were to be religious, I’d choose Buddhism. A while back, for a 90 Day Jane blog, I quoted A Buddhist Bible, edited by Dwight Goddard. The quote was then attacked by a user named Russ, who quoted something from the New Testament. (This just goes to show that Christians don’t like to be wrong, ever!)
The quote goes: “every one must bear the burden of his own sins, that every man must be the fabricator of his own salvation, that not even a God can do for man what self-help in the form of self-conquest and self-emancipation can accomplish.”
I like to know I have control over my life and my actions and that I don’t have this all knowing being, who predestined my life, yet gave me the freewill to live my life. I don’t have to feel guilty for sex, or self-sex, or anything do, unless it hurts a human, of course, because everything that I do and want is in my natural, and probably in yours as well.
With this month being Buy Your Friend a Sex Toy Month and next month being Masturbation Month, I think that this topic should be addressed by professionals and not some bumbling blogger (me) or some one who thinks that there is some big mythical man upstairs.
So is there anything wrong with Masturbating? The plain answer is no and it isn’t wrong, despite what the clergy says, unless you are just a compulsive masturbator:
Masturbation was once vilified as a perversion. All sorts of efforts, ranging from extreme guilt to diabolic contraptions, were made to discourage both single and partnered people from doing it. Yet sexologist Alfred Kinsey’s groundbreaking data, first reported in the 1950s, had plenty to say about the subject, including that women who masturbated before becoming sexual in a marriage had a much better likelihood of achieving orgasms during sexual contact with their husbands.
Still, mental health experts were not particularly vocal about the health aspects of masturbation until the 1970s. Even though masturbation’s benefits have been regularly proffered since then, many people today still feel extremely uncomfortable about doing it or discussing it — much less allowing their partner to see them in the act.
What’s a healthy way to view masturbation? It’s appropriate, and a valid option in a relationship, when one’s partner is unavailable due to physical separation, fatigue, recovery from childbirth, or illness. It also helps balance discrepancies in frequency desires. Since there is no formula bestowed during a marriage ceremony that magically aligns two people to have the same level of sexual interest, masturbation is a good thread to weave through a relationship’s tapestry.
Most couples have a “higher frequency partner” and a “lower frequency partner.” This desire discrepancy puzzles many couples. They struggle with having sex when they don’t really want to. Some wrestle with deeply held feelings that they should be everything their partner desires sexually. (source)
Not to mention this:
Masturbation is a natural sexual expression. People in most cultures masturbate. Even many species of animals do. Yet, some people hesitate to do it - even when it might really serve them well during a particular phase of their life.
Despite the fact that many people masturbate throughout their lives, there are still some who believe that masturbation causes insanity, epilepsy, acne, blindness, nosebleeds, warts, uninhibited sexuality, and hair on the palms. And some believe it causes headaches, when it actually can help relieve some types of headaches.
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Masturbation can be a very good way to learn about one’s own body - particularly because it can help with communication of knowledge to a partner. Many women learn to have their first orgasm through masturbation. So, rather than being a substitute for partner sex, it can be a supportive path to having better sex with one’s mate. (source)
But despite the evidence on the table, Save the World Christian Blog, and others just like it, continue to pour out lies because they’re miserable and want the rest of us to join them:
Even if it involves only one person attempting to satisfy a sexual desire, the fact is that masturbation always leads to other forms of sexual perversion. If you are masturbating often, because your spouse is not around, your mind will soon tell you to get lover. At it makes some ’sense’ to get a sexual partner instead masturbating. So it is better never to start something that will lead you to deeper sin.
Sex is biblically meant to be enjoyed between a man and a woman in a legal marriage. Any other form of sexual satisfaction is unbiblical and leads to sin. (source)
However, this is the sort of person that would’ve probably been pro “cut the boy’s penis off) in the 19th century. Why would anyone want to listen to that?
No, people of religion are so disgusted with their wants and needs that none of them want the rest of us to have fun. If we smoke pot, they cry foul, even if it has been apart of the religion since the first book. We have sex, they cry because we’re not reproducing. We vote for prochoice presidents, they say think about the unborn, it’s wrong to kill some one - all the while they have the hand on the lever to kill Mr. John Doe on the seat.
Pop culture has used the topic on many levels - most of which deal with a young boy who is just exploring his body. And while it’s a funny subject when it comes to a dad or an uncle trying his best to explain the whole masturbation thing to a child, one must know that too much of a good thing is in fact a bad thing.
For example, the follow is a question submitted to Esquire and answered by the lovely Stacey Grenrock Woods:
Returning to my first attack, I’m not trying to say all those who believe in a higher power are anti-masturbation, it’s just that the majority ignore science and psychology (ahem, dinosaurs with Adam and Eve and demonic possessions ring a bell?) and the simple plain truth. They go around preaching on a subject they have no evidence on, condemning it to be wicked. The simple fact is, we’re human and we’re going to do human things. We don’t need some over seeing dictator to punish us for having a good time. As long as we don’t hurt individuals in the process, or even ourselves, then it’s not such a bad thing. Remember, you’re the only one who makes you feel guilty, no one else. So release yourself from the dogmatic chains and lay back, relax and rub one out.
I know I’ve been posting a couple of screen shots of sick fuck searches for a while, but I decided to share a funnier one (note: child pornography was searched, however, I’m thinking it wasn’t for sick purposes, because who really uses the word pornography these days?):
Well, as you read earlier, today’s Steak and BJ day. However, those of us without significant others, like women on Valentine’s, have to find ways to get our minds off it. Here’s a snippet of a conversation I have with Philosopher in Theory:
Me: i want tacos
Philosopher: heh
mmkay
Me: tacos tacos tacos
brb
Philosopher: k
Me: i mean if i can’t have steak, i may as well have tacos
Philosopher: lol
what are you gonna do about the bj? :p
tacos and jerk off?
Needless to say, I didn’t jerk off while eating my tacos, or before, or after, or right now for that matter. But it did make sense in a sick sort away to share this piece with you.
In other news, go here and download the PDF file. It should do it automatically, but if not, just save it. I’ll have a snippet of this as well, later.
